Religions are divisive. They’re control clubs. They take over your free will and much of your spiritual and independent cognitive processes. They tell you what to think, do, and believe. Everyone knows that or should.
You belong to one, another, or none. Each one tends only to do rituals and blessings for their own approved members.
If you don’t have what it takes to get into a club/religion, whatever little intricacies of thought, action, or belief (which only requires acceptance, not thought) you don’t become a member of that club. It’s ridiculous to sue their bigoted asses just because they won’t accept you for whatever reason.
LGBTs, there is NOTHING wrong with being who you are. You’re not hurting anyone. You’re just being yourself. In an ideal world – in THIS one in fact – everyone SHOULD be free to be themselves with the only caveats being that “yourself” doesn’t harm anyone and no one’s rights eclipse anyone else’s. We should all be decent to one another. Kindness first.
But there’s something truly twisted about expecting clubs/religions that have always rejected you to suddenly take you in. They’re not wired that way. Remember: they’re control clubs. Group think. You do not conform to their group, therefore you do not belong among them. You don’t even need them.
You have won equal civil rights under the law. Please don’t sink you own boat now by trying to force control clubs to accept you. It’s not going to happen until they’re ready, if it happens at all. Trying to force them will only turn them against you worse than ever before because it infringes on their right to uphold their religious doctrine as they believe they should. They’re whining enough as it is that you should have the same rights they do.
Do yourselves a favor and form your own churches or groups to bless your union if you need that or do what I did as a straight and churchless agnostic: get a justice of the peace from the courthouse and choreograph your own appropriate ritual.
A marriage does not require church blessings or rituals to be real anyway. Heck, traditional marriage as it actually was and still is in some places required neither love nor choice. We’ve evolved. Both are now involved. In practical terms, though, marriage is still a beneficial union between two people and their families, the core of a new family, and a household partnership. We join with our helpmates and lovers. What more do we need than that?